December 13, 2013

The Third Decade + Oxblood Tights

I recently read this article on and I really enjoyed it….Not only because I am in my mid 20’s and feel it relates to me- but because it took some weight off my shoulders, made me feel more at peace with where I am in life and know that it’s a journey. 

Here are some of my fave points that I pulled  from the article. The points of view are from eight incredibly diverse women about what they want, who they currently are, or what they wished they knew in their third decade. (In BOLD are my personal thoughts.)

#1 "One thing I knew in my early 20s (but chose to ignore) was that I should have started saving money. Instead of buying that extra pair of shoes or spending $50 at a bar, I wish I would have been more disciplined about saving. Having a safety net gives you more freedom to pursue new things, instead of being tied to a job you hate."

I should def think about this more when I swipe my debit card for shoes next time.  Also reminds me of Proverbs 22:7: "The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave of the lender" (NRSV). This could not be more true.
#2 "You can't avoid the bad shit. It will always find its way to you somehow."

Yep- I think I've already figured this out.
#3 "You haven't got life figured out yet. Although it may feel like it, because life is hitting you like a thousand epiphanies slapping you in the face. And, you may never. But, if you do somehow find enlightenment, I imagine it will only be in the context of you. So, humble yourself and keep listening and learning. The wisest know they know nothing at all."

Love this- and makes me feel much better. Sometimes, I feel like I am not doing enough, or that I’m not doing what I should be doing…. Cheers to the unknown! Right?!
#4 "Not everyone you're friends with are friends worth holding on to. Honor the friends that persist when you're at your lowest. They are the absolute real deal. The rest aren't bad people, but they aren't helping you grow either. Don't be afraid to let them go, and wish them a wonderful life as they exit yours."

Learned this pretty early, but thankful I did. "As we grow up we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones."
#5 "I can guarantee there will be haters, but it's only logic that there'll be lovers, too."

Hey Hater! Lol! Seriously, who cares? The older I get the less I care about what others think.

#6 "Finding the right partner for you is a powerful thing. As corny as it sounds, meeting my husband and working to build a lasting relationship with him influenced my general happiness as much as accomplishing any of the measurable goals that I had set going into my 20s."

couldn't agree any more with this statement. Though, I am a little different because my husband and I found each other in high school, not in our 20’s, I can’t imagine life without him. He is my best friend. He’s made me the woman I am today and helped get me through all the tough times and the good ones too.
#7 "Live in the present. Dwelling on the past or future is extremely counterproductive. It's all about the now, being true to yourself and having faith."

Amen! My faith is my rock. 

Have a wonderful weekend.

Outfit: Top and booties from F21. Skirt from Ross. Tights from Target. 
 Read the full article here: 30+ Things Every Woman Should Know Before She's 30 




  1. hey first of all love the outfit! like always!! love how simple it is but still very stylish!.

    anyways thank you so much for that! im 21 and yup im young but have been going through some issues Money wise insecurity wise car problems lol it goes on but like i always say this happens to everyone, its part of life and i loved what u said "You can't avoid the bad shit. It will always find its way to you somehow." its annoying and we get frustrated but we will get through it somehow this really helped me in the situation i am in. Thank you!:) your a very good person and you inspire me!:) and this quote helps me when im going through things "If God bring you to it he will help you get Through it" He doesn't give us things we cant handle!. anyway have a blessed day!

  2. love, love, love that you share this article with the rest of us. I think a lot of us are on the same boat. We sometimes think we are the only ones that go through difficult times in life... but we are not alone!! Good to know what to expect once we hit our 30s and keeping growing as human beings.
    Thank Girl for sharing this. Makes your blog way more meaningful!
    Loved your outfit of course! always gorgeous!

  3. This is such a beautiful post! I love it. Everything is so true! Keep up the work;)

  4. omg i need those booties! are they new? they look great with the b/w!


  5. Thanks doll. No, they are from last year.

  6. So happy you enjoyed it Francey. Thank you so much!!!

  7. Omg! You cracked me up Mrs. Cougar-ish! LOL!

    Thank you so much for leaving me your thoughts. You know I always enjoy reading what you write. My husband is def my best friend too! Wouldn't have it any other way. Glad we have so much in common! Big HUG Lori :)


  8. Hi Lily, so happy you enjoyed the post. Exactly like you said it's just part of life. We have to roll with the punches :) Sending lots of positive energy and love your way :) Thank you for leaving me your thoughts. Have a blessed day too!!!


  9. You know I love yo' blog, girl! Aw yay for hubbies that are best friends!!! We could so double date if we weren't so far!!! LOL!! Big hug to you!!! xoxoxo! We must meet one day!! Only about 3 hours away!!

  10. This is a great-looking outfit, and you are incredibly lovely here, Ivonne. Nice pairing this black cropped top with the houndstooth skirt. The burgundy tights and booties are as charming as your smile and hairstyle. Incredibly charming looks by you, Ivonne.


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